Consequences

Yesterday when I got home, the sitter told me of some things that Timothy had done that she had to put him in "time-out" for thoughout the day. After she left I was talking to him about those things and he was actually listening pretty intensely (as he does every now and then). After I had finished talking and told him that I just wanted him to tell me the truth, Timothy looks at me and says the following:


"Telling the truth is a good consequence. If you tell a lie that is a bad consequence. Just like if I hit Rachel, that would get a bad consequence, but if I help Rachel, that would get a good concequence. (a small pause) That is what my Daddy has been teaching me!" Then he shakes his head, grins very big, and raises his eyebrows as if to say, "See I do listen and I am learning!"

Aren't they cute!

"I didn't have any paper!"

These are pictures of what Timothy drew on his sheets yesterday during naptime. He explained it like this:

“Well, I didn’t have any paper, so I drew on my bed. This (pointing to the one with the BIG head) is Daddy. (Then moving to the left) This is Mommy, me and Rachel!”

He had actually told the babysitter that his Daddy told him that if he didn't have paper he could draw on his bed! OH MY!!!!

Then he drew some faces and big bodies on his pillow after he took off the pillowcase, of which a friend of mine pointed out this morning that the one on the pillow looked like Dopey from Snow White. I told her that if he had ever seen Snow White, I probably would have thought the same. The crazy thing is that he drew on the sheets, but removed the pillowcase to draw on the pillow! I guess he wanted a different background or something.

After he left the room for a minute I snapped the picture and Carlton and I had a good laugh….by the way….it all washed out!

LOLOLOL

This is the family on the sheets.

And we'll call this one Dopey!

I guess we are lucky this is the first time that he has done this....now let's just hope little sister doesn't follow him!

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Pictures

Timothy and Rachel

My two precious babies! (Timothy would have a fit knowing I just called him a baby!)

Rachel posing for the camera!

Timothy watching for his friends. Hoping to catch a glimpse so he can yell, "Mommy, Mommy, I see my friends, can I go over there? Can I? Can I? WOOOHOOO"

Prayers Answered

Praise God!!!

Last night Carlton decided that we HAD to talk to the boy's parents NOW! Timothy was not understanding why he couldn't play with the boys. Carlton didn't want him playing with them until after we had talked as adults about what happened. He wanted the other parents to know that he felt that, although boys will do "boy" things, tricking someone to drink urine was a little extreme.

SO...Carlton had me call and ask when would be a good time for all of us to talk about what had happened. So, I did and after talking to their mother it seemed as if they didn't think it was that big a deal and made it sound like we wouldn't be able to talk until Friday night.

Carlton went to visitation at the church, we had supper, got baths and the kids were in bed when he saw the boy's Daddy sitting on their back porch. So he stood up and asked me if I thought he should just go over and talk to him alone. I told him I was perfectly fine with that (I HATE CONFLICT or the thought of it). So he walked outside and crossed the ditch and sat next to him and started to talk. They talked for a while, then Carlton came home.

When he came in I asked him how it went. He said that their dad told him that at first he didn't think it was that big a deal, until Carlton asked him how he would feel if someone had tricked one of his boys to drink urine. Then things changed.

The plan now is this......the two dad's will sit down with the boys and talk on Thursday (both dad's are off), they will explain how what was done was maybe a "trick", but not a good one, the oldest boy will apologize for tricking Timothy to drink the urine, then they will all go see Spider Man 3.

HAPPY ENDING FOR THE BOYS!!!! And for this Mommy....the stress of the thought of conflict was making me sick!!!

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Random Thoughts

This turned out to be a lengthier post than I intended!

Timothy had his first ever Mission Friends ceremony. Here are a couple pictures:

Mission Friends' emblem.

Timothy and Jana (our pastor's daughter and Timothy's future wife, so the two of them say!)

I just thought this one of the only 2 boys was cute. It looks like they are saying something like "Can you believe we made it with all these girls!"

Well, this weekend was full of a lot of stuff. Laundry (still not all done) Mother's Day, Mission Friends pinning ceremony at church, Parent's Night Out, and the painfull decision of not allowing Timothy to play with the boys behind us for a while.

Laundry - Is it ever done? Do you ever get caught up? As soon as you think you are finished, it is piled up again!

Parent's Night Out - We LOVE parent's night out and so do our kids. We get to go out and only pay $7.50 for child care. A babysitter on any other night runs us anywhere from $15 to $30 depending on how long we are out, and sometimes Carlton likes to do dinner and a movie and another movie! We went to a Lamar baseball game, and dinner at Rio Rita's with the music minister and his wife (Charlie and Yvette). Had fun!

Mother's Day - Good day. I had already gotten a wonderful present. We had decided before church to go to Texas Roadhouse to eat lunch. But when we got to church the pastor's wife, Kim, asked me if we wanted to go with them to Joe's Crab Shack. I thought it would be fun so I said, "Sure!" Well, the wait was a little long and we had to drive to Beaumont to eat (which is only about 15 minutes tops). I think that Carlton had his "buds" set for the ribs at TR so, although he said he would go wherever I wanted, I think he was a little disappointed! So, he kind of pouted. He won't admit he was pouting, but that is what I will call it!

Now for the worst part of the weekend - Saturday afternoon Timothy had been out playing with the boys behind us. He plays with them all the time. At supper time we had him come home. During supper he starts telling us all about his time with "the guys". He told us about the trampoline, about going to Logan's house and many other things. Then came the bomb! This is what he said, "Me and --- and --- (leaving names out) were outside and ---poured water in a bucket then he went pee pee in it and drank it! Then he tricked me and --- to drink it too!" CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT!!!!! We came unglued!!! Carlton reacts a little more dramatic than I do, but this was terrible. I called their parents and asked them about the story. Then I asked them if they would talk to their boys to see if they get the same story. Carlton had already looked at Timothy and told him that he better be telling the truth. IF Timothy had not been he would have said something like this, "Ok.....let's start over..." But he did not. He looked at Carlton (with scared puppy dog eyes) and said, "I am telling you the truth!" The parents to the other boys said that the oldest one had gone to a friends house to spend the night, but they would ask him about it when he got home on Sunday. Then they asked their youngest one and he confirmed the story but said he didn't actually drink it, he just put it to his mouth. Timothy says he drank it. He says that the oldest one tricked them, that he didn't really drink it but made them think he did so that they would.

Remember, Timothy is 4 years old. These other two boys are 5 and 6. I know that boys will be boys and they will do some crazy things, but they are pushing the line with this one! Carlton has decided that until we can talk to their parents, and they can assure us that this kind of behavior is totally unexceptable and that they will do something about it, then Timothy can not play with the boys. The parents gave us the impression that it wasn't that big a deal. Carlton's thought is this; yes, boys will be boys and I can see things like sticking gum in someone's hair, eating dirt, eating a worm, but to trick someone into drinking urine! Come on! That is a little much!!!!

Anyway, I type all that to say this...pray for us! Pray for Carlton as we try to talk to these parents. Pray for Timothy, these boys are his "buddies" and he is only 4 years old and may not understand all this. I don't want him to blame, and/or be upset with Daddy for not letting him play with his friends! This is tough!

Pray for us!

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CAMERA!!!!

Carlton (and the kids) got me a camera for Mother's Day!!! I know it is a couple days early, but if you knew my husband you would understand. He can't hardly wait for anything. It doesn't matter if he is the giver or the getter. Here is a picture of my camera.

It is a Canon EOS 30D NO...I don't know what all that entails yet, but I know that it can do a lot! I just have to learn how to use it now!!! I am SO excited. I wasn't excited about the price and the thought of another bill coming in the mail, but I LOVE my camera. Hopefully on Monday I will have some nice pictures to post!!

How funny! I was just looking at my post from the other day and I was complaining about not having a digital camera. I wonder if I have been doing that a lot! Maybe that is why Carlton got me one! LOL

Dentist Visit

Wow!! I took the kids to their first ever dentist appointment yesterday. I have to admit that I knew Timothy would do well, but I was concerned about Rachel. When I set the appointment I told them to put Timothy first so that Rachel could watch him, hoping that seeing him would calm her fear, and IT DID!!!! WOOOHOOO!!! The hygienist was the best I had ever seen. She was GREAT with the kids. I took lots of pictures, but I don't have a stinking digital camera SO, you'll have to wait on those. (one day there will be lots of pictures on this site!!) Anyway, I was so proud of my babies!

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Momma

My Momma has SO much faith in me! You can see if you read her comments on my posts. With Mother's day comming up I wanted to write a little something about her. I am sure it will make her sob becasue it comes so unexpected, but that's okay, it will be a good sob.

My Momma and I have always been pretty close. Don't get me wrong, there have been moments in our lives that we might have wanted to strangle each other, but we have still been close. My Momma has been always been there for me. She loves me unconditionally. As I do her! She is a very strong woman, although I don't think she believes that.

She has been through a lot in her life. She was married and had a child (me) by the time she was 17 years old and another one (my brother) at 19. She was married to my dad for 10 years, until drugs and excessive alcohol came into the picture. Then there was divorce, 5 years of divorce (but still loving my dad), some church toward the end, salvation, prayer for my dad, his salvation, and a remarriage! Then my dad went into the ministry. Those of you who are minister's wives (like myself) know how strenuous that can be! Since then, some things happened and church has become almost nonexistent. Her heart aches for her son that has been in prison for stealing two watches longer than some people are in prison for molesting innocent children. She cared for her dying mother-in-law, and now for her father-in-law almost to the point of exhaustion before letting others help because she knew that she would see to it that the care they got was THE BEST that she could give. She finally found a place to call "home" after many years of "wandering" from place to place, only to not know what will happen now that Pappy is in a nursing home. Will they have to sell, or will the state take it all when the insurance runs out and they have no other way to pay!

Although she doesn't attend a church right now, she still looks to God and His word for answers to many of her problems. Her heart knows where it should be but she stuggles with life in general now to the point that she is exhausted. My mother will do, and does anything for anyone at almost any time! She is coming to my house to watch Timothy and Rachel while Carlton and I go to Cozumel this summer for our 10 year anniversary, and although to her that will be a break from her everyday grind, it is not going to be a "break" (sorry Momma!) She is the most giving woman I know. She gives her whole self to helping others, and rarely takes time for herself.

I love my Momma!

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I'll Love You Forever

A book that all us Mommies know well! I was reading a "blog" friends entry for the day and she was talking about how her baby girl just had her 2nd birthday. She discussed how she was feeling and all my memories and emotions from Timothy and Rachel's 2nd birthdays came back. At the end of the post, she quoted this line from the book we all love, "I'll love you forever, I'll like you for always, as long as I'm living my baby you'll be" My tears started flowing!

That book is Timothy's all time favorite. As a matter of fact, after I read the book the first time that he really understood what the mother was doing, he asked me if I would pick him up and rock him back and forth! So since that time, everytime I finish reading it, I pick him up, rock him back and forth, and sing those words to him (to my own made up tune) and everytime, he closes his eyes, smiles and snuggles up.

I started thinking of the many times that Timothy has asked me to read that book and I have made an excuse as to why I couldn't....it's too late, Mommy is going to bed now too...and the times I ACTUALLY used not reading it as a punishment! HOW COULD I DARE DO THAT!!!!!!! (sobbing) God has given me these two precious children and has trusted me to love and nurture them. From now on....if Timothy wants that book read...it will be read no matter what.

Thank you Daisy (my new blog friend)!

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How Time Flies!

Well, I must admit, I am not good at keeping up with things. I spend a lot of time reading everyone elses posts on their pages, and leaving comments here and there, but I don't take the time to catch up on my own page. HUMMMM!!!

Where to start...the new sitter is working out okay. She is 21 and in some ways it has almost been like having another child around! The first day I had to go around and pick up after her and the kids after I got home. We talked about it and the second day I didn't have to do that. Problem solved! Then last night when I was cleaning the dishes, I noticed that one of my NEW pans (an expensive one that has a non-stick coating) had scratches on it!!! DEEP BREATH!!! My mother has the same pans and assures me that this will NOT affect the quality of the pan, but I have only had them about 3 weeks now. I have been taking extra care of them to make sure I didn't scratch them myself, and then this happens! I know it is not the end of the world and it is just a pan, but it is one of my new ones. (okay ENOUGH whinning)

Timothy has shown Rachel how to get in and out of her crib!!! This morning he came in the laundry room while I was ironing and told me that she was awake. I told him that I would be finished in a minute and would go get her out of her bed. He said okay and ran off. The next think I know, he walks back in the laundry room, says, "Tada!!!!" and points in the direction of the kitchen, and in walks Rachel! LOLOL I didn't show him my laughter, I kept it inside. I asked them how Rachel got out of her bed and immediately Rachel points and says, "T did it!" LOLOL (she calls him T) I SO wanted to laugh, but I didn't. I looked at the two of them and told them that from now on, Mommy or Daddy would get Rachel out of her bed. Then I looked at Carlton and told him that we have got to get her out of that baby bed! It is getting dangerous!